Directions: Print a copy of the Speech Checklist. Write a check mark on the space provided when you have completed that item.
Note: The items without spaces are listed as reminders for the wedding.
If you follow the Speech Checklist, then you will be ready for the big day.
Here, you'll see the best speaking tips in one place. If you need more help, simply click on the link in that section.
Control Your Speech Anxiety
_____1. Mental Somersaults
_____2. Practice! Practice!
_____3. Speak About What You Know and Like
_____4. Visualize Yourself Giving a wonderful Speech
5. Arrive Early
_____1. Deep Breathing
_____2. Light Muscle Squeeze
4. Use Gestures and Walk
5. Make Eye Contact with the Audience
For more help, visit the Speech Anxiety Page.
Follow These 3 Steps
Step 1: Tell Them What You'll Tell Them (Introduction)
Step 2: Tell Them (Body)
Step 3: Tell Them What You've Told Them (Conclusion and Toast)
For more help, visit the Speech Outline Page.
_____Ask These Questions to the Bride/Groom In Advance
1. When will I speak?
2. How many guests will attend?
3. How long would you like me to speak?
4. Who should I thank for hosting the event?
4B. How should I address each person whom I will thank (Mr. and Mrs. Johnson, Pete and Jody, Cousins Jody and Pete, etc.)?
4C. How do I pronounce the name(s)?
5. Is there anything in particular that I should say or do?
6. Is there anything in particular that I SHOULD NOT say or do?
7. (If applicable) Will there be any equipment available for showing video, PowerPoint, etc.?
For more help, visit the Audience Analysis Page.
Should You Use Each Joke?
_____Make sure each joke passes all 3 Rules
Rule 1: The Joke MUST Be Funny
Rule 2: The Joke Doesn't Insult Anybody
Rule 3: The Joke Leads Into Your Speech
Note: If the joke does not pass all 3 rules, leave it out of your speech.
For more help, visit the About Wedding Jokes Page.
Follow these 3 steps for creating wedding poems
_____Step 1: Write down every idea that comes to mind (childhood memories, college stories, etc.). When you have about ten ideas, move onto step 2.
_____Step 2: Select the type of poem that you would like to recite at the wedding.
_____Step 3: Include your favorite ideas from step 1 as words fitting into the format of the poem type selected in step 2.
For more help, visit the Wedding Poems Page.
Follow These 3 Steps
_____Step 1: Write down every idea that comes to mind.
_____Step 2: Arrange your favorite ideas into the Speech Body's Main Points.
_____Step 3: Prepare your Introduction followed by your Conclusion and Toast.
For more help, visit the Speech Writing Page.
Decide Which Type, If Any, to Use
1. Objects or Props
Note: Make sure the equipment will be available before putting too much time and effort into this option.
Tips for Using Visual Aids
1. View the audience
2. Is it being used?
3. Don't Pass it around
4. Stand clear
5. Use sparingly
6. Able to see and read
7. Practice using them
For more help, visit the Visual Aids Page.
_____Step 1: Practice your speech at least five (5) times.
_____Step 2: Write a BRIEF Outline
Step 3: View the Audience
Speech Delivery Tips
1. Eye Contact: Look at the Audience
2. Voice: Vocal Volume and Vocal Variety
3. Hands: Add Gestures. Avoid holding hands or waving hands too often.
4. Legs and Feet: Balanced Stance. Avoid Crossing Legs or Pacing Back and Forth
5. Use the Podium to Hold Your Notes. Avoid Standing Behind the Podium.
For more help, visit the Delivery Tips Page.
Methods to Practice Your Speech
______Select Your Favorite Practice Method From This List
1. In Front of the Mirror
2. In Front of Other People
3. In The Actual Room
4. Video or Audio
After Selecting Your Favorite Practice Method
_____1. Practice out loud at least 5 times using your favorite method. Practice at least once each day for the 5 days leading up to your speech.
_____2. Use the Practice Your Speech Evaluation Form.
For more help, visit the Practice! Practice! Page.
After reviewing and "checking" the above items, You have finished the Speech Checklist.
Last Minute Tips
Look over the Speech Checklist as a refresher several times between now and the wedding.
If you need more help, click on the link in that Speech Checklist section for more guidance.
Remember to keep practicing your speech.
Have Fun and enjoy the wedding!
Where should you go from here?
Now that you've completed the Speech Checklist, here are some last minute tips:
Worried that something will go wrong? The What If? Page will show you how to put out fires before they happen.
Will you travel to the wedding? See the Travel Tips Page to make your trip as well as your speech an easier experience.