The Father of the Groom Speech is a major part of the Wedding Rehearsal Dinner. He also could be asked to deliver a speech at the reception.
This page shares some tips that will help the Father of the Groom deliver a special message to his son and future daughter-in-law.
Let's start by watching an outstanding example of this speech.
Mr. Olle Westling spoke at the wedding of The Swedish Crown Princess, Victoria, to his son, Daniel.
Note: the actual speech begins at the 0:50 point of the video.
We'll talk about the strengths of this speech shortly.
Video Source: Victoria and Daniel's wedding - Olle Westling's Speech (Subtitled). www.youtube.com
This Father of the Groom Speech has plenty of strengths:
+After commenting that the bride and groom are beaming with happiness, Olle mentions a quote of the King's at the 2:06 mark: For Sweden, in the present. The quote is appropriate for the occasion. Plus, Olle and the King are now related.
+Well organized- Three main points: Daniel's accomplishments throughout his life, Princess Victoria's wonderful qualities, and a little marriage advice for the bride and groom.
+Olle expresses his appreciation to the Royal Family and guests for their kindness and hospitality.
+Nice touches of humor. Olle makes several funny and tasteful comments in his speech.
+At the 6:30 mark, Olle concludes his speech with a toast and cheer for the bride and groom.
+Excellent Eye Contact- Aside from an occasional look at his notes, Olle speaks directly to the bride and groom as well as the guests.
+Well Poised- Olle looks very comfortable and confident. Plus, he spoke in a conversational tone of voice.
About the Father of the Groom Speech...
Please note: Although it's called the Father of the Groom Speech, the father might not be present or able to deliver the speech.
In cases like this, the speech is usually delivered by the Mother of the Groom. However, another member of the family can give this speech instead of the mother.
In fact, my mother delivered the so called Father of the Groom Speech at our Rehearsal Dinner.
The speech lasts between 3 and 5 minutes.
The Father of the Groom Speech usually is the first of the Rehearsal Dinner Speeches.
This speech welcomes everybody to the dinner and sets the tone for the other speeches to follow.
Your goal for the Father of the Groom Speech is to talk about some of your past moments with the groom and share the happiness that you are feeling for the bride, groom, and this milestone in their lives.
Note: If the Father of the Groom is deceased, make sure that the person delivering the speech says some nice words in the father's memory. Also, make a comment about how happy the father would have been for his son.
At what occasion(s)will the Father/Mother of the Groom Deliver Speeches?
Be sure to get in touch with the bride and groom about their expectations well in advance. You may speak at any or all of these events:
Wedding Farewell Brunch
The major speech for the Father of the Groom Speech will be the Rehearsal Dinner. You might also be asked to deliver a Father of the Groom Speech at the reception.
The speech and toast formulas that you will see on this website are appropriate for any of these occasions.
The order of Rehearsal Dinner Speeches
A common, but not required speaking order is:
1st: Father or Mother of the Groom
2nd: Father or Mother of the Bride
3rd: Best Man
4th: Maid of Honor
5th: Bride and Groom or Other Speakers
6th: Other Speakers or Bride and Groom
The Order of Reception Speeches
The typical, but not required speaking order is:
1st: Father or Mother of the Bride Speech (unless he/she speaks last)
3rd: Best Man
4th: Maid of Honor
5th: Father or Mother of the Groom
6th: Other Speakers
Final Speaker: Father/Mother of the Bride (unless he/she speaks first)
The order of the Wedding Farewell Brunch Speeches varies.
Father of the Groom Speech Format
*Say your Name and introduce yourself as the Father of the Groom.
*Thank the guests for attending
*Thank the host(s) of the event
* Welcome the in-laws to the family and make a warm comment about the person who will marry your son.
*Finally, say the main points that you will discuss during the speech body.
*Explain the two or three ideas that you previewed in the introduction (memories from your son’s childhood, the first time you met the bride, three positive qualities, etc.).
Conclusion and Toast
*Repeat Your Main Points. This is a signal to the audience that your speech is coming to an end.
*Ask everybody to please raise their glasses for a toast to the couple.
*Give your toast
*Say Cheers! and expect a similar response from the guests.
Where should you go from here?
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If you want to go from start to finish, view all of these pages in order. Or just look over the specific areas that would be most helpful to you.
Start by clicking on speaking areas listed to the side or below that you want to visit.
See the Speech Anxiety Page if you want to tackle your nervousness and speak with more confidence.
The Audience Analysis Page is a must. Learning about your audience can be the difference between an outstanding speech and a disaster.
You might be thinking of making this a funny speech. Before you do, view the Funny Speech Page.
If you want to complement your speech with a special touch, but don't know what to add, scan the Wedding Poem Page for some ideas.
Using Visual Aids? This can be tricky and fall apart if you are not prepared. See the Visual Aids Page for the do's and don'ts before going down this path.
Check out the Speech Outline Page to see a 3-step formula for a speech that the audience will follow, understand, and enjoy.
Check out the Speech Writing Page to quickly and painlessly organize your speech.
The Delivery Tips Page will show you some tips to help you speak like a pro.
Every coach says "Practice! Practice! Practice!" Why? Because it works. Wedding Speeches are no exception. Go to the Practice Page to find the fastest and easiest ways to focus your practices.
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Video Source: President Ronald Reagan's Notes. www.usatoday.com