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Subject: What if This Happens?


Rick Lindner's Wedding Speech Memo

Tips, resources, and articles related to Wedding Speeches.

January 6, 2012


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***What If This Happens?***

Most wedding speech questions that I receive start with "What If...?" and continue by describing something that happens during a wedding toast.

To help with any "What If?" concerns that you might have about your wedding speech, below you will see the most common questions that I've heard and suggestions on how to handle the problem.


***What if Nobody Laughs at my Joke?***


1st: After saying any joke, pause for three seconds. Silently count the seconds as one, one thousand, two, one thousand, etc.).

2nd: If nobody laughs by the time you get to three, one thousand, then continue with you speech as if you had not made a joke and you are just pausing before the next sentence.

Don't be surprised if the room is briefly quiet before there is any laughter. Sometimes it takes a second or two for the audience to respond.


***What if I Forget My Speech Notes?***


Note: If you don't have time before your speech, immediately skip down to Step 3. Otherwise, start at Step 1:

Step 1: Assuming that you have time before your speech, quickly brainstorm several key words for items that you planned to say during your speech.

Step 2: Put these items in order. Don't worry about the rest of your speech.

Step 3: Speak from the heart. Say the items that you remembered in Steps 1 and 2. Share a favorite story about you and the bride/groom before wishing the couple well. Don't be surprised if other parts of the speech come to back into your mind as you begin your speech.


***What If There is a Heckler?***


There is close to a 100 percent chance that this won't happen because you'll speak to a very friendly and supportive audience.

If there is a heckler, try to keep calm. Pause for a few moments and then continue your speech. If this persists, the Wedding MC or other guest(s) will handle this person for you.

The audience will be on your side as long as you don't get into a yelling match with this person.


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***Today's Quote***

"Communication works for those who work at it."

John Powell

Film Music Composer

Until the next edition...

Rick Lindner


***About Rick Lindner***

Rick Lindner, creator of, helps those who are asked to give Wedding Speeches. He gives guidance every step of the way--from creating heart-felt messages, to controlling nervousness, to delivering speeches that makes them shine. He has helped people with wedding speeches and toasts since 1993.

Rick is an Assistant Professor of Communications for Georgia Perimeter College. He presented business communication workshops for such organizations as Xerox and Blockbuster.

Rick earned his M.A. in Speech Communication at Georgia State University.


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***Does Your Speech Pass the Breath Test***

Short sentences are easier to say than long sentences. But how long is too long for a sentence?

To determine maximum sentence length, use the "breath test." Without taking in a gulp of air, and just with the amount of air you ordinarily have in your lungs, read the sentence aloud at a normal conversational speed and volume.

If you run out of breath before you get to the end, the sentence is too long. Solution: Break it into two sentences at the point where a new idea is introduced.

This article appears courtesy of Bob Bly Direct Response Letter at


So, you don't want to work on your Wedding Speech. After reading this, you'll have a nice incentive to start:

***Proceed With Confidence***

You can increase your feeling of confidence within a few minutes, even with a few seconds. All you have to do is accomplish something that brings you one]step closer to one of your goals, and your confidence will instantly grow.

The moment you take even the first step of action towards achieving a dream, your sense of confidence will begin expanding, because you'll trust that you can count on yourself.

The more steps you take, the better you'll feel about yourself because you are DOING, and that new confidence will help you create even better results.




***3 Things that all Good Speech Jokes Have in Common***

A bad joke could ruin your speech and the wedding at the same time. Before deciding whether you should use a joke in your Wedding Speech, there are 3 Rules to follow:

Rule 1: The Joke MUST Be Funny

Rule 2: The Joke MUST NOT Insult Anybody

Rule 3: The Joke MUST Lead Into Your Speech

Just to be sure, try your joke(s) out on several people and get their opinions well before the big day.

Only jokes that follow these 3 rules should be considered for Wedding Speeches. For borderline cases, follow the adage "when in doubt, leave the joke out."


***Today's Quote*** I never use a long word when a short one will do or an involved construction when a simple one will do or literary trickery when plain]speaking will do.


Until the Next Edition...

Rick Lindner

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